Wow...bittersweet...so happy to see you yet, well....hey, the bottom line is as my friend frank_d has said from the beginning:
Originally Posted By: frank_d
You'll be OK
Ellie was on my thread from so far back. Know what Ellie...she is still watching The Bachelor.
The 'standers' would never agree to this, but, being here and almost done now, I truly believe that EVERY marriage is worth trying to save. None is worth being destroyed and living in distrust and pain. There are people who build and there are people who destroy.
Keep drumming Ellie and, if you pardon me, I hope the sex was/IS great!!!!!!!LOL.
13 days until trial. I am preparing. Atty has filed a motion for sanctions against her atty and also for relief for the thousands of documents he continuously asks for. I will literally have to go to court with a handtruck and 4-6 file boxes with receipts for 10 years worth of a two page request rider.
I drove home the other night and STBXW's passenger side car window was broken into in our driveway. Her wallet was stolen from out of the car. She had left it on the passenger seat, I imagine in full view. Of course, you know the looks I got and the subtle accusations:
STBXW (on phone with mother): "He just got home....about 10 minutes ago....don't know where he was....."
Etc. Her mother was over at my house 15 minutes later. Can't she handle her own affairs by now? Would anyone here need to call their mom at 42 years of age other than to tell them what happened? Estranged MIL gets out of her car as if STBXW had an MI:
MIL: "Where is my daughter???" Me: She's upstairs Mrs. X. I'll open the door for you (I was taking out the garbage when she drove up at 10:30PM).
Police was called by her to file a report. I think it was the same guy from the last call and you could tell he was either 'fed up' or we are on the 'excessive call divorce list' down at the station.
I'm tired of this all. It's been almost four years since the bomb and over 2 years since filing. I'm exhausted and tired of being under the microscope. I'm tired of waking up at 3 am when my son or daughter runs into the MBR because they had a bad dream and then sitting there for 5-10 minutes debating to myself whether or not I should carry them back in, let them stay or get on the floor to avoid being photographed.
I look forward to getting this done. I am ready to start anew. I want and need.....uh.....well....mmm...a new suit and clothes (LOL).
I'll miss everyone here. Most people know where I am over on 'visage livre'. I'm sure I'll hang on a bit longer mostly trying to help others, but, I think it's too painful to stay here after awhile. There is definitely comfort in seeing old names, like seeing Ellie back here. I'm so happy that you posted. Even more that there is life after D.
The dating pool will be quite different for us. Most people will be like many of us here: midlife, newly divorced with kids, financially torched. But, hey....it is what it is.
Trying to steel myself.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
