Allen...we've been separated since Sep 08. Having troubles since before then (June 2006).
Drinking, lying, multiple A's, a kid from last OM.
It's hard bro...when you believe in your covenant before God. I know I have a way out. The question is, am I strong enough to either stay and try to let her get help (she probably won't stick with it) or am I strong enough to suck it up and let the whirlwinds of the D process start blowing.
I'm not really in a position, financially, to deal with a protracted D proceeding in the fashion that I would want to. So I'm coming up with my demands for her to see if she can pull it off. First demand though, is to lay off this 60 day time frame. She brought it up with the reasoning that if we're going to be married and put it together; then it would be better to be together.
Now if my W was normal, I might could buy into that. However, she's not and my BS meter says that there is something more to this "60 days" than she let on.
Since Christmas Eve until last Monday; we had been hanging out about 3-4 times a week. Doing dinner at each of our respective homes. Staying over at each other's places. We both agree that it was moving way too fast. Then last Monday, she said that she needed more space and was wanting D. So I started bringing all of her stuff back to her place and took my stuff from there as well.
It seems that process set this ball rolling. She says that she is now willing to listen to what I need for reconciliation. I've just been burned too many times, and that is my fault. I'm probably crazy too.
