Ah but you forgot one other scenario. When there is a well-adjusted family where BOTH parents are M and are involved with their children, they thrive the best.
And lets be perfectly honest. There is no relationship where a couple bickers 24/7. It's how they cope with conflict that is the key. If the couple shows a positive way of dealing with conflict (talking things out, etc.) the kids learn from that. Plain and simple.
We are all a product of our upbringing. Kids seem like they "bounce back" because at the time, that's how they cope. It gets buried beneath the surface only to come back up again when they're adults whether consciously or unsconsciously.
There are lots of studies that show both sides. Personally, I think the ones where the parents stay together, learn how to deal with conflict and show mutual love and respect are the best. Yes even the ones that go through all the stuff here can be learned.
Exactly. And when my ex left...she made it sound to everyone like all we ever did is fight...which wasnt true at all. We didnt even get into an arguement every week...let alone every day. She was desperately trying to justify her being with the OM.
And heres the thing...lets say there is a chance that kids will bounce back. That implies that theres also a chance that they wont. When it comes to kids...do you want to take a chance like that? I mean...really...most people err on the side of caution when it comes to their kids.
