Two things I'd like to make clear; one, I don't mind people venting on this thread; it's OK to do that. A shoulder to lean on is one you can't find all the time..and everyone's shoulder here is always a good thing to have. So, vent away, I do understand; I've vented enough myself in my time.
Two, Cat is right, there are many other people, besides me who've gone through the MLC tunnel; and have learned SO much from this journey. That learning they pass on to others, and it's important to give them their time when they take the time to answer your post.
Please don't just look for the answers I give, but read theirs, too, learning from what they are saying. They don't have to take the time to come, read and comment; but they are caring enough to do so; so, I repeat, READ their answers, too. Like I said at the beginning of this thread, it sometimes takes several people commenting to help a poster answer the question that is asked; and I sincerely believe in collaborating with others.
Eventually, when this post joins the archives, it can be yet, another tool to help another, and this is what this is all about; helping each other, with love and understanding for each other's problems/troubles. Anything that will help is a positive.
FWIW, On a more personal note: I've read EVERY post in this thread, and some I have read several times. All of you mentors have learned a great deal; and have gained a great deal of knowledge AND wisdom from this journey you are on. All of you are doing very well, and I feel you will continue to do so. I am very appreciative of the time taken to check in on this thread.
The discussions are very interesting, informative and helpful to all. I have to laugh, you are literally "dragging" my memories out of my head, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, either, LOL!!
When I completed my journey(s), I went through a process of "forgetting" how I traveled this path, only knew that I did and was finished, retaining only the lessons learned. It's only when someone "triggers" a memory, do I begin to remember what I did to get there..but I have to really think about it to bring it back. It's not painful, not anymore...that pain left long ago.
Keep asking questions, until you get what you're looking for, by all means. We will discuss until I hit it or get it or whatever has to happen.
The ending of my journey is a story that will most likely be told in pieces, as I remember it. I'm not being stubborn, I promise..I just can't remember it all.
You, too, will reach where I am, when it is all a distant memory. I think that is the biggest reason many people do not come back. They don't remember, don't want to remember, and so go on...and that is a necessary thing to them.
Remember, this is NOT a basic truth, only an opinion of my own.
As much as any one of us wishes we had a "magic pill" to end this, we don't. Only the tools to offer for your journey is all we have to give....using them, is up to you.
Never discount another's knowledge, use it to your advantage, and learn from it. That is what it is here for.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
A shoulder to lean on is one you can't find all the time..and everyone's shoulder here is always a good thing to have. So, vent away, I do understand; I've vented enough myself in my time. 
