My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[MrBond]

Ah but you forgot one other scenario. When there is a well-adjusted family where BOTH parents are M and are involved with their children, they thrive the best.

And lets be perfectly honest. There is no relationship where a couple bickers 24/7. It's how they cope with conflict that is the key. If the couple shows a positive way of dealing with conflict (talking things out, etc.) the kids learn from that. Plain and simple.

We are all a product of our upbringing. Kids seem like they "bounce back" because at the time, that's how they cope. It gets buried beneath the surface only to come back up again when they're adults whether consciously or unsconsciously.

There are lots of studies that show both sides. Personally, I think the ones where the parents stay together, learn how to deal with conflict and show mutual love and respect are the best. Yes even the ones that go through all the stuff here can be learned.

But unless we can actually look at the same child in parallel situations, you aren't going to know how they are going to end up. As adults, I think it's impossible to judge how a child is going to act or react when they become adults.

knittedscarf/MarkG you're looking at extremes where the parents either always argue or they don't. Well that's never the case.