I gotcha GH31 and Puppy Dog. Phenylethylamine (PEA). Thank you for this - its like a light bulb has gone off for me! This chemical release is what is affecting her AND I right now. She feels this for him. I guess it was triggered in her when she met him on the cruise and it fueled why she wanted to contact him after she got back. From what I read, this chemical creates the infatuation or obsession that a person feels when they *gulp* fall in love. I suppose that's why she sent him (and probably still does) 50 text msgs a day. Ultimately, I guess its what pushed her to have sex with him no matter the circumstances. And my actions definitely were creating PEA in her...
On the other side of the coin its been triggered in me in the form of withdrawl. "The desperate need for finding that person or regaining a lost love can destroy all other parts of life, create chaos, tension and anxieties and threat life itself when chronic grief turns into suicidal thoughts." This fits me to the T. I've been told 100 times on here by you guys and my friends/family to GAL - not because I just need to move one but because I HAVE TO in order to move on. Easier said than done but education helps.
Last edited by Quart9; 03/02/1006:25 AM.
Me-32 W-29 No kids ILYBNILWY 11.20.09 Separated 01.10.10 Discovered EA 01.13.10 W admitted to PA 02.21.10 I filed for D 03.09.10