My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Thank you everyone for the thoughtful words of advice.....I am struggling with what I need to do. Part of me wants to go talk to his Mom about his depression. I know she thinks he is depressed, it is so obvious in so many ways. However, the DB counselor I spoke with said I shouldn't go talk with his Mom. He needs a "safe zone" and a place he can go to. I can't be more excited that if he isn't going to be at home, that he goes to his Mom's. I love her, but she will annoy and get on my husbands nerves at some point.

He has been over at his Mom's again for the last 3 nights. I spoke to him once, texted a couple of times yesterday. Today I have ignored him completely. I have decided I am not going to initiate any contact with him at all. It is obviously not worth my time and energy to be treated this way and until he can show more respect I am going to be VERY distant and do more of my own things.

I am fairly certain that he is talking with the OW again. I also really think that Awest hit the nail right on the head in that my husband is self-medicating by having a fantasy life, feels bad, comes home and then gets stressed out by the "real world" all without facing any of his issues.... This is exactly what I have thought for so long now and I am actually relieved to see someone else sees it the same way.

The funny thing is that the OW is leaving for school in May. She will be on the other side of the country. What kind of reality is this? Does he really think she won't meet someone her own age???? Such a weird world the depressed person lives.

The one other thing I am having a lot of trouble with is....GAL. I really enjoy being at our home and I really enjoy spending time here. I really need to try more with this...any thoughts or ideas? I was actually thinking of taking up running. It can't be more painful than being home alone in an empty house. Thank God for my dog. I love him so much.

Again, thank you everyone for caring thoughts. I really appreciate it.