Well, don't do the same thing you used to do if it didn't work. You mentioned your comment that was in anger - did you apologize for that?

Now you mentioned apologizing in other times, I've heard others say that you need to be strong, not pursuing. To me, that means you apologize for mistakes, but you leave it with that instead of bringing it up again and again (if you are doing that).

You said you 'assume he doesn't want me around'. Maybe he doesn't. I wouldn't work on assumptions.

Have you read the book I mentioned and the DB books? I got mine from a library...saved a bundle that way (:

When you said R with this guy, do you mean physical or was it just going out on a date. His travel may have led to your feelings, but it is good to see you regret it - marriage is based on trust, I think. Regardless of what you do, PA or EA, he needs to feel he can trust you in a R way. The oven was just an oven.