WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

Kids didn't hear or see any fighting or anything... discussions with SILs was by text msg or online... I played with them while typing furiously away on here and with SILs...

What I meant by traumatized was that both kids have been asking about why daddy won't come home almost every night since he left. I've tried to tell them that he still loves them, but needs to live at SIL right now, but they don't understand why the abrupt change. Son and H used to be stuck together like glue for most of son's life, so it has hit him harder and with a delay (like most things with him). Son has been acting out in anger and frustration lately (working with a behaviour therapist on that) and daughter clings to me and freaks out if I am out of her sight for long now.

I didn't mean traumatized by meeting OW... I know that D clung to SIL1 when they were sitting having coffee with them (according to her). Son probably didn't even register anything different. If they stayed overnight somewhere.. who knows...

I appreciate all of your help in keeping me from flying off into H's territory... It was extremely hard not to give in and let it fly, whatever words came to mind.

My close friends have been telling me that I should just report him for fraud (since he is attending school on funding that was based on him living and helping support spec. needs kid and other kid, paying a mortgage, etc) Now he pays absolutely nothing to SIL and the minimum required child support to me...

Not sure if I want to be the reason he stops going to school.. even though he isn't entitled to be there according to the funding agreement...