Ok, my turn to join here. I am new to this site. I have a 12 year marriage with 2 8 year old twins. Wife states does not love me and never did.

I have made dramatic changes for her over last 1.5 years, but nothing works. She cringes in my presence (never been any physical fights)

She was having at least an emotional affair with a guy I know.

She is going to retrouvaille this weekend, but I think to improve our post divorce relationship.

Did anyone try retrouvaille and did it help?

Tryingbutlosig

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M 44
H 42
2 8 yr old twins
bomb (2nd drop 8-09)"I can't do this anymore"

TBL now equals "Toward Better Love"
M-44 W-42; 2 kids; married 11 years
1st bomb 10-08, reconcile 12-08
2nd bomb 8-09, moving toward reconcile 3-7-10