I forgot if you mentioned it before, but did the two of you ever see a C? Preferably one with a psychiatric background? You may have mentioned that your W is on meds, but if not, then she needs to get some stat.

This is basically for your kids who need some sort of stability from her.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER