So any suggestions on how I should handle this? I have given her the space she asked for and haven’t contacted her for a week – I suppose I have ‘gone dark’.
But then should I be doing this if she felt she wasn’t getting enough attention from me in the first place? Am I not compounding the problem by giving her ‘less love and attention’ by having no contact. On the other hand she said she wanted ‘space'!
How do I straddle this middle ground?
IF she is truly bipolar then why are you even asking these questions? You are getting exactly what she is. This IS who she is. This IS what bipolar people do. You think that she is going to stop being bipolar by something you say or do? You are only fooling yourself if you even think that would work. She MAY (and I do mean MAY) learn to control it somewhat better with help and medication, BUT you better face reality here guy.. THIS is what you can look forward to or have in the back of your mind for the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HER.
What you are doing now is PERFECT. Leave her alone and do NOT contact her. When the bipolar goes in the opposite direction yet once again (and it WILL) she will then be banging on your door all depressed because she can't have you........
You really need to focus on what you have here and what you are in store for for the rest of your life if you choose to have a bipolar woman in your life.. It will always be high's and lows, high's and lows...for her, and then they try to bring YOU down or up because of the way they feel for the day....She is going to exhaust you emotionally. Wear you down.. Up and down up and down and you had BETTER be up and down with her. OR..... (get it?)
This isn't really that much about you and what you do or how you act. I think you should kick her to the curb and then when she begs you back, that you should then tell her that you will NOT take her back until she gets help. It will only be the crisis when she is again on the downside of her issue that she will probably do whatever you want her to do to make it work.
I would take the strongest toughest stance on her that she has ever seen from a man. Let her come to you, then reject her until she gets help.. AND I don't just mean three counseling sessions and a new bottle of pills....
