So, your W grew up observing first hand a SSM, meaning that on some degree that's where her childhood comfort level was set.
What caused your MIL to hate men, sex, etc, so desperately?
I have no idea, nor does my wife of why her mother was so oriented. I am sure that the two of them (MIL and FIL) had their reasons.
However, when I dated my wife and we were first married, my wife's "comfort" level was at a much higher level than it is now, otherwise, I would have never gotten married, which may be exactly why it was higher than than now or it could have naturally changed over the years. I will leave that for our sex therapist to help us work out.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
