Well, your H and his "friends" are going to talk about what they want. Just remember there are two sides to every story and I highly doubt your H's work "friends" are giving an accurate portrayal of both sides of their divorce.
To this day my H still tells anybody that will listen that our decision was joint and amicable. LOL!
How many of these work "friends" have a special needs child? How many of these work "friends" have put terrible financial strain on the family finances via a business venture? How many of these work "friends" refused their spouses sex for years? How many of these work "friends" caused huge amounts of tension in the home due to their sleep issues? Rhetorical questions but not all divorce/custody issues are the same.
What one person considers "financial terrorism" could actually be a rather fair division based on the law and circumstance. Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the word "fair" is rather subjective when it comes to divorce settlements. Most WAS's are rather surprised to find out things won't be as "even steven" as they thought. So, anything less than even to them *is* financial terrorism.
I would speak to legal counsel before you start getting upset about your H's motives. You did mention he spoke to an attny that was a friend but I wouldn't put too much stock in the advice his work "friends" are doling out or what sort of influence they might have on him.
