No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

So I tell her Thursday night that I'm on half-day furlough on Friday so if she wants to meet up for lunch or dinner, I'm free since she's off. We meet for Friday night dinner and spend some time at the mall with our D's which was pretty fun. She actually initiated a little conversation and I made sure to give her my full attention when she's speaking.

Saturday we were supposed to go to my D's soccer game together, but it was cancelled on account of TSUNAMI! So I just picked up my D's in the morning and brought them back home with me. I mowed the lawn and my oldest D thought it'd be nice to have a barbecue. She asked if W was coming over and I said that was up to her, but she could call her and ask. So she invited my W over and altogether we had a nice time.

As my W got up to leave after dinner and a movie, both my D's started crying asking her to stay. She got a little stern with them and said that she told them she wasn't staying over. I pulled her to the side and said that she was being a little too harsh and she needs to knock it down a bit. She softened a bit then left. She called me later that night to tell me she got home safely and I talked to her briefly about how I didn't understand how every time she leaves, it looks like she's forcing herself to leave. I also mentioned to her that I didn't understand how (originally) she left me for a guy who was her "soulmate" who turned around and pretty much threw her under the bus. I added that she had a house full of people who love her and that she didn't have to be alone. I was debating whether or not to say all that earlier, but I figured, what the heck? At least it would give her something to think about. I didn't really think anything would come out of it.

Sunday night it was a little sad when my D's wanted to see our wedding pictures and when they did, my oldest remarked how she's never seen mommy so happy in a long time. Yep even she picks up on the depression. When my W called later that evening, I asked her what she did and she just said she went to buy a storage containere and that was it. She asked what we did and I pretty much told her we had a blast. Went to the park, made dinner together, etc. She did sound a little sad, but oh well.

I think I get a better reaction when I'm going 'dim' around her. I mentioned to her that I had an event next week Sunday and if she could come. She said she would which again is a positive sign.