The only lumber I'd be bringing to the field is the following concern.
You love your daughter and you love your wife.
Your Daughter's reactions, emotions, control she has on you, the whole ball of wax...
Your situation is going to be tougher than many here.
To put simply, a situation that is FAR from simple.
Where does your loyalty lie?
Jack, I can say I have given this much thought and have reached this conclusion, especially after the phone conversation I had with the W on the way home about an hour ago. (more on that later along with the problem between my W and D)
My loyalty lies with my family and without my wife there is no family. Additionally, God tells us our spouses come before our children. I think by placating my W in hopes of saving our M will be understood by my D13 one day. My daughter is actually very mature and I would say she has the maturity of a 16 or 17 year old. My D13 thinks I should kick mom to the curb for good and has made that clear to me, she is starting to understand though that you don't throw away 16 years that easily.
If me and the W can patch this thing up then the issue with my D13 becomes easier. "Look Dad forgives Mom, it is okay, you can too". Right now I have not seen significant movement by either Mom or D13 to say I need to put one's wishes over the other's, but that day is coming.
I try to balance both of their needs and my desires but I can see after today I might need to commit one
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
