I think I would totally feel the same way as you...we are mother bears when it comes to our kids. YOU have to be the better person for your kids...listen to what the guys are saying and take some time to let the anger pass. I did a dumb thing after I got D papers in the mail and decided to contact OW's church...I emailed the whole sitch the the Pastor...a couple of hours later I calmed down and and totally regretted doing that! Luckily, I had the wrong church! How embarrassed was I. The good thing that came out of it was that the Pastor told me that he would be praying for me/us! I'll take all the prayers I can get!
Just take some time, calm down and breath! Try not to put his family in the middle...am sure they know it is wrong what he is doing but they are his family! Hang in there!
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