Also, posters on this board are not the final arbiters of what is moral and correct, nor what kind of behavior is equivalent to what. Is webcam sex the same as in-the-same-bed sex? There is no universal answer to that, only opinions.
When you have enough distance from the manipulative relationship that was clouding your judgment, then you will be able to feel some confidence in deciding these things for yourself, according to your own moral code.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
