Running out of time.

[Cie la vie]

DW,

Whenever I start thinking about my W and all of the negatives, I try to turn things around and think about all of the positives that await me. I still do not want to be bitter when this is all over, but I think there will always be a part of me that will resent her actions. Does that sound normal?

I am with you on all accounts. I catch myself beginning to dwell on her and the BS that goes with it and I have to make a conscious effort to switch my thoughts elsewhere and it typically takes a few goes before I can change tracks. Somehow we must find it within us to forgive them or we run the risk of remaining embittered for good. I definitely do not want to carry that baggage around with me for the rest of my life. It'll just eat us alive. If it isn't normal than I am abnormal.

As they say time heals all wounds, some take longer than others.

I have question for you and anybody else that has an opinion on the following. I continue to be puzzled as to why her family members have failed to make any effort to contact me. They were/are like family to me. The two times I have talked with my SIL (calls initiated by me) she was both angry and felt my W was sick or in a MLC and was in need of counseling. I haven't heard a peep since New Years Eve. Just curious.