Sorry that things aren't how you would want them to be.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
Yes, my wife is home physically but not mentally I don't think. So far she has slept on the couch 98% of the time even though she knows I don't like that. We have not ML once.
Sounds very familiar.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
I have not pushed this issue but she keeps pushing for affection which I have given but have not gone overboard as I'm not ready to have my heart stomped on again.
My wife was exactly the same. She wanted me to caress her head and shoulders for hours and hours and hours, because it was "the only thing that gave her comfort".
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
I think she's pissed that I have refused to put our money together
Let her be pissed. She will get used to the idea that finances are separate and if she wants to be trusted with your money she'll have to earn it.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
She continues to go to counseling and reported to me that she and the counselor think that I let her come home because she was my plan B? I had to get clarification on that one. She explained that my choosing being with her was better in my mind that being with no one else? I almost laughed out loud but refrained from doing so.
All of the above is a wind-up!!! She sounds so much like my wife. Mine will try anything to get me to feel guilty, confused, feeling like I'm to blame. I'm sure she does this because a person in this state is easier to control. I don't know if yours is the same and I hope she isn't.
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
Truth be told, I was really starting to have a good time by myself.
Good!
Originally Posted By: AFWAW
So, it has been difficult and I am starting to question her true intentions about coming home. I cannot live as roommates. I'm trying to be patient but it is difficult.
You are absolutely right to question this. Her actions and the words she uses to justify her actions will tell you what you need to know.
