I'm trying not to go down that path in my head (wasted energy) but it just really hurts to know that right now he's with her and possibly strengthening their bond...
Not so much "wasted energy"
It's just that you are giving him, YOUR power....
And are you quite certain he has anything to give, that might strengthen their bond ?
I just talked to SIL2 who told me that she hates what he's doing but couldn't tell me about it... Apparently it was an overnight thing as they didn't spend the night at SIL house!! Where the frig did my kids sleep? Was he really that demented to sleep with OW in the same room with my kids!!!!?????
I'm really losing it here now!!!!
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Okay, don't call!! It will feel good for about a minute and after the adrenaline wears off ... worse. Be the less psycho option and maintain an honourable silence with the HO and the SILs while you vent all you want here, to the punching bag, on a walk, etc. You're entitled to being angry ... how can you let it off in a way that won't bite you back?
That psycho is infiltrating every part of my life and I'm just sitting here letting her!!!! What the hell is that??? She lives in another country and yet she has to take over my family in mine??
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I'm going to expose her psycho a$$ to all her colleagues!!! I'm going to call the biatch and let her know every time she talks in front of them she can wonder who knows all the sorry little details of how she can't tell when someone is lying with her!!!!
They friggin deserve each other!!! They're both insane and I don't want them around my kids!!!! Either one of them!!!
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And when you said "Never do that again"...to either one of them and they did it anyway...cause they will. What happens then? You have just doubled your anger.
Couple of things you need to realize.
They ARE having an affair. That means they are having sex, and sleep together.
And occasionally, our children will be in the same house.
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I feel like just calling, telling her and him off and filing for custody tomorrow!!!!
Look,
Cat04 called you to task for the texts and she was right.
You call her, and you justify his decisions so far.
You need to get a grip on your emotions and the buttons.
Your 3 year old daughter, likely will not recall much of this except mom and dad fighting.
Letting your anger direct the course of action is a very bad choice.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
