The only lumber I'd be bringing to the field is the following concern.
You love your daughter and you love your wife.
Your Daughter's reactions, emotions, control she has on you, the whole ball of wax...
Your situation is going to be tougher than many here.
To put simply, a situation that is FAR from simple.
Where does your loyalty lie?
Your wife in MLC land. Who is making HORRIBLE choices and the fallout of those choices...but who likley wouldn't if not for some fukced up switch in her silly little head?
Your daughter who deserves your loyalty...but...BUT, by words and deeds is pushing you away from your wife...her mother?
You have a fine line to walk.
It would be EASIER if your wife and daughter actually got along without the the anger seething off of your daughter.
Your daughter is pushing you in the direction she wants you to go. And I am worried that you will placate her wishes. Which could be easier since the LBS tend to take up the RALLY cry: "BUT FOR THE KIDS I WOULD SUFFER HELL!"
And...your daughters direction...its almost overwhelmingly easy to take.
Your wife...switch in her head, her broken head. MLC...temporary.
Your daughter...at 13 is making a choice to despise her mother that will last... a VERY VERY long time, if not a lifetime.
Hatred isn't born overnight.
I'd say your caught in the middle. But you are not. Your daughter wants her gone. Your wife wants you gone. You want to be a family.
Plan accordingly.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
