I'm with you and eric and others, still in the house and trying to figure it all out. I have four kids the same age range as yours and eric is right: get your strength from them. I'm hoping the same as you are that my wife will come around. If all goes well, this sitch could be the best thing that happened to us. It makes us realize where we went wrong and fixing the things in ourselves that will make us better people no matter what she chooses. I haven't posted much so I'm no pro. Just wanted to let you know I understand. Don't give up and stay strong!