Excellent decision MF! I do think it's time to speak up and let H know what you want moving forward. You have put in the time and effort to show him that you have changed for the better. Now you can present your list of wants/needs and H can decide what he wants to do.
I will do my part to try to keep your spirits up and encourage you.
One last word about bacon--if you like it, definitely try the Bacon Salt. It's actually very low sodium, vegetarian, and imparts good bacon flavor without the bad fat. I use it on salad and to spice up grilled cheese sandwiches.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g