I wish you could have taken a picture of yourself 9+ months pregnant weedwacking and then send it to all the lame people and family members who refused to help you!
((Jstar)) Soon your little baby boy will be here! All you need to worry about is one day at a time. My SIL was behind 3 months on her mortgage and the bank still did not take the house from her!
OKAY 2X4 coming...tough love....for a pregnant woman! oops. Look, my family is unreliable as well. I definitely do relate. But I also frown upon drama queens and martyrs who are people REFUSING SUPPORT and then complaining later! So please rethink turning down the help offered to you from your niece's mom. Maybe she could even help with the aftercare!
And the aftercare. So are you saying now you will need to look after d2 while you recover with a newborn with NO HELP? I think I could scrounge up some family member even in my family to help.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
i would love to be able to scrounge some family members. my sister is only taking the day of surgery off along with my niece. there are no other family members.
they have to work to pay their bills. i will be in hospital for atleast 3 days if not more with baby.
i don't need help in delievery room maybe that's what i need to stress to them.
i'm back to not sleeping, horrible dreams, and worry worry worry. i used to say oh it will be okay but not in every case is everything okay.
i did take pics of me having weeds sshavings all over my legs. sent it to h since he believes nada i say. i had to have the dr from d2 appointment call to prove to him she was really sick. his comment was oh thank u for taking her, good job mom. very sarcastic and has not asked how she's been or nothing.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
not much to update on. just trying to get house ready for birth of kido, clean and such since i will be down for a few weeks.
still trying to get my work stuff done, really busy and starting to freak out.
dreams last night are anxiety driven over birth and afterwards.
update with h. eh same old stuff going on.
coined a new name for h. drive by daddy, he wants to see kids when he wants to usally for a really short period of time and infrequent, about 1 or twice a month.
i will not let his inconsistency, lack of routine and ability to committ and follow thru with a visitation schedule hurt my lil girl. same boundaries i had for him in nov, same ones he ignores end of feb.
he seems to be under the impression if he goes to court he's going to get his way. not even when the dude has no car seat, bed for himself or d2.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I broke down and had the h be there for the delivery. it was rough and got little better. he stayed with us in the hospital and day after we got home had a huge blow up.
in hospital he "said' he'd be there for how long it took, my family got upset and have backed away.
he left son and i for 8 hrs saying he'd be back in a few with d2.5, apologized but said he would do it again.
i need to get rid of any feelings i have for this immature man. he says he wants to be a drive by daddy and i said that is not going to happen.
he is here at current moment playing his lovely psp.
ok so i need to set some boundaries
get my emotions under control-way into post partum, no real support, h won't talk about it or support
i am medicated for anxiety, depression in reference to situation and how i deal with what comes at me
trying to heal
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Congratulations on your baby boy! As you work on just dealing with the near present, be thinking of finding a replacement dad for your kids... dating in 6-9 months maybe? What do you think?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
i dont want to date anyone else. I still love my h but after what happened i see no hope. i put some of his crap outside for taking he found out and took off. he says he's going to court will find some girl to fill void i put in him.
i realized in hospital i have feelings for him and want my marriage.
now im back to beginning.
what am i supposed to do.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
oh yeah i since i had h in delivery room my family support i had has implemented tough love for me choosing him. so its just me with newborn and d2.5 at home.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Jstar, you just need to let time go by and not "do" anything for awhile. You just have to survive for awhile, so don't even think about a plan right now. Seriously! If you remember with your daughter, it gets easier about 4-5 months after the birth...so just try not to get into big ugly fights...be a pacifist for awhile but give yourself a break from DBing.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
