I have been reluctant to file b/c I don't want the D at all. I know that you are right and my family has also put the pressure on for me to get the D started.
My reluctance does give her time to feel out Plan A (since I am clearly plan B or C at this point.) As I've learned from Om1 fizzling, it's not a guarantee that she will ever come back.
I believe what you say and I do want some kind of closure- perhaps filing will give me the boost I need as far as empowerment and esteem. After all- I have lived up to most of my vows.
I will see what I can do as far as getting in w/ L soon. My father wants me to file by the end of the week.
I'd be interested to hear more about your sitch- I will read through your story.
