I got a book. Also our lone guy in bookclub told his Mom that teaches at her church. She kind of got me started. Then this book I bought a couple of weeks ago tells you how to start and get going. Then it has different patterns too.
I used to do some needlework but don't want to concentrate that hard! lol You can see something being created more quickly this way. I will look up the name of the book if you are interested. I got it on amazon.com used.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I am not you, but I lean toward the enforcement agency. You are right, a % of $0 is still $0, but at least you know that when he is making money, Marc will get some.
I am lucky in that regard. Dan pays every month so the kids get what they need. Doesn't keep him from playing the victim though!
I still think Gabe is getting off way to easy. If you aren't getting thing now, what difference will it make if he is sitting in jail for not making payments. There are consequences and it is about time he felt them.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I still think Gabe is getting off way to easy. If you aren't getting thing now, what difference will it make if he is sitting in jail for not making payments. There are consequences and it is about time he felt them.
Honestly, the amount of money it will cost me to have the CS enforced is too much considering I won't get anything out of it. I just don't know what the heck to do. It seems like I should just write him off as a father, period. That may be better for me. Marc doesn't know that his father is a deadbeat and I won't be the one informing him!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I think Marc would surprise you...he probably does know. I am sure he sees you struggling and why would that be if his Dad was pulling his own weight.
I know it is difficult for you. I often think of the people panhandling on the side of the road and just across the street there is a fast food restaurant with a "Now Hiring" sign. Why don't they just get up go over and get hired, because it is easier to panhandle.
Making things easier for him hasn't helped you. What Marc thinks of his Dad is up to Gabe to help define and not you. You are his mother, his stability. Give Gabe the choice to stand up because he sees the consequesnces or let him fall because he isn't man enough to do what is best for his son. To me it is a no brainer.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
It's interesting that it is a ton of paperwork to have it garnished there, here it was next to automatic. If I had not done it, I would have risked having anything I paid not through the state considered a gift, if things ever got ugly.
I think it's time to enforce, it's not like he can give you less than nothing!
It puzzles the heck out of me why it should cost you anything, when he is the one violating a court order. And since Marc is the beneficiary, and not you, it puzzles me even more!
I would have hoped that since the child benefits from it, the state would have an interest. It doesn't seem right that the more you need something, the less you can afford to do what it takes to get it! Are there waivers for the fees available? I know that there were here, for the fees for filing for divorce. I have no idea what the requirements were.
