What would it hurt if you contacted him in some form? He might tell your H- yeah your wife is crazy and thinks you need to get medicated for depression and it could open a conversation at least, don't you think?
This might sound cruel, but your H can use his depression to manipulate you- people with physical illnesses can do it, too. They guilt people into feeling sorry for them and taking care of them. (I talking about dysfunctional relationships like yours is right now)
Hi NM,
I e-mailed our friend and told him I needed to talk to him. We'll see if he even responds. I suspect he won't.
H was gone most of today, came back in and has been very calm. I start moving things out in 30 mins. This whole thing is so surreal. I will be in the house for roughly another week - contingent on mover's schedule.
H is acting completely normal, like pre-bomb. Argh. Just don't even know which way to turn. H does have problem w/not assuming personal responsibility and blaming me for his feelings/thoughts. This has been common thread thru-out R/M.
Keep saying to H that I don't blame him for my feelings/thoughts/actions - lead by example, as it were. H keeps telling me that I think he ruined my life, is a terrible person, etc. Keep reassuring him that is not the case.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
