Yes I remember your earlier threads and I did exactly the same WRONG things over and over so dont feel bad.
We tend to seek out places like this and info right when the poop hits the fan or it's already too late.
In my case she made up her mind years ago and I was just going through the typical LBS pitty party, begging and pleading. I was a mess just like you and I was essentially just beating my heart and head against her brick wall.
But because I know knowlege is power I came here and am much wiser now. Still need to practice what I preach even to myself. Damn heart overrides my logic sometimes.
BTW, this is the first month since the bomb dripped in Nov2009 that I have not lost weight. I will need to work on that since my appetite is back. But my brothers seem to have beer and BBQ every single week and I hate to say no to that LOL.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me