Fast track to her divorcing me

[dday101798]

Im sure dday will give me a 2x4 upside my head and remind me that a friendship with the X may backfire on me and may keep me from DBing like I should. I will say that I am aware of this at this point but I need to get a feel for where she and I are. I see her contacting me as a good thing for now. Hopefully it wont backfire on me.

Ask and yee shall receive, but I'm not slugging just yet.

That said, I see nothing wrong accepting HER invitation. Clunk, clunk, hello! That's her feeling YOU out in my book. At the same time, it may also be those second guessing jitters, but don't cross your fingers on it. From my experience, it took many times of just re-establishing mearly a line of communication. My (x)W and I NEVER had an opportunity to do breakfast, lunch or what not until this last time she reached out to me, and here we are. So, just know, it may fail for now, on her end or your end, should OM still be in the lurking.

Now, here comes the 2x4, but not too bad. I strongly recommend you double think dating new is the answer here, expecially a (W)WW.blahblahblah.chick. That is just asking for trouble. Two wrongs DON'T make a right. And again, experience talking. I figured my (x)W was so determined that she drug OM directly into our kids lives from day one, and it had'nt got better, only worse, meh, what the heck. Made a 'friend with benefits', no serious dating per sae, and at times, I felt as if I'd come home to my cat (versus a bunny) in the dutch oven from that fatal attraction.

And the question was would have been who really did it?

Here's the thing, you love your wife, admit it, you wouldn't be here other wise.

Now, what's gonna happen if you get someone else mingled in the picture on your end. You're having fun, not thinking about any of this at all. Unbeknowgnst to you, your new little friend is attached to you, but your feelings are still with your wife. How do you think that's gonna pan out?

Again, I'm not saying it's right, and I'm not saying it's wrong. But it is defenately either way, something that needs serious concideration. I mean, my THEN WIFE was all over this dude in the middle of the village park for everyone, including our kids to see, yet I feel bad for involving someone else in the mess of things months and months later on.