Thank you freckle. I am going to follow your advice. I guess I am in a way asking for permission because I"m trying to do things differently this time. In the past, H agreed to all my rehearsal schedules then ended up resenting it. THen when he left, he stopped being around much at all wen I was in rehearsal. Then my S had too much babysitter time so I quit. He kind of forced my hand.
In the past when he was more interested in reconsiliation, he had voiced that he would like me to have more babysitters on hand to give him some freedom. I'm doing what he requested so I was surprised that he was stuck in the past. It would be nice for him to see that I"m trying to work this out but I can't expect that right now. I have to keep setting boundaries.
I think he has trouble setting his own boundaries so it's easier to try to control me. I like how you said to come from a place of offering the time to him, instead of expecting it. I don't expect it, but he is going to put these words into my mouth to avoid a reasonable schedule talk. I tried to say these things last night but my MC reminds me I can't get through to him when he's blowing up. So I will clam up and take care of it as long as he's throwing his fit.
I emailed three college students off of craigslist so I'm covering it.
