Agreeing with Truegritter. People having affairs usually cheat down. It's not about you, it's about WAS making themselves feel good the easiest way possible. OW in my sitch wasn't as bad as yours but she's definitely not at my level--she'd had affairs with two other married men that I knew of, was a lot less attractive, and not nearly as smart. And this is from others' perspectives, not just mine. What she was: a drinker, a smoker, and easy.
My wife's OM was 28 (my wife was 47), heavy, HEAVY acne (I nicknamed him "The Pimple," or just "Pimple"), lived at home with his parents, and drove a beat-up old small pick-up truck with the side-view mirror broken off. When my voice recordings turned up him telling my wife "I know I'm a 'catch' . . ." one nite, I almost blew my dinner.
One afternoon, when I had my "P.I. angel" following him for me, as I thought they were about to do a hook-up and I was trying to get some intel, my angel called me from her cellphone and told me "I just had to tell you this, cuz I think it'll maybe help put a smile on your day. I'm sitting behind this guy at the red light, and he's looking up in his rear-view mirror, and he's popping a zit!"
