Fast track to her divorcing me

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Yeah same here. Tried everything to save the marriage but she was steadfast.

All I can do now is show her what she left behind. And what she left is a better person to boot now. I think she is starting to notice this.

FWIW she actually asked me to have breakfast with her yesterday morning. Wow! We have a kind of give and take relationship now. Guess she wants to be friends. She does things for me and asks me to do things for her so I do not feel like I am a doormat at this point. If it starts to seem that way I will go back into my cave.

Not exactly DBing on my part as I accepted her invitation. What can I say, I like bacon, coffee and bisquits. I now only respond when she calls me first so technically I guess I went grey. At least now she can see all my possitive 180s.

She did ask me for some help with things and I did that as she is also helping me so it's a 50/50 give and take thing between us.

Now if I later find that an OP is involved in her life then all contact from me will be OFF. That would be too painful for me to deal with and our current friendly relationship would die an instant death.

Im sure dday will give me a 2x4 upside my head and remind me that a friendship with the X may backfire on me and may keep me from DBing like I should. I will say that I am aware of this at this point but I need to get a feel for where she and I are. I see her contacting me as a good thing for now. Hopefully it wont backfire on me.