Am I stupid?

[dday101798]

dday youre a smart cookie.

Well, thanks, but I'm merely speaking from experience.

Again, you say you are going to make these changes and hope she takes note.

True, that is all in the scheme of things, but you NEED to ditch that hope portion, at least in the sense of your motives. IF you do, and you make those changes, and only for her to come back, I fear you may find yourself right back counting down to doomsday in no time at all, making those same mistakes that got you and your situation here in the first place.

Now, you want her back, understood, but you want her to want to be back: outstanding, THAT is the way to go about this. Might I suggest jotting that down and keep it somewhere to remind you, day in, day out, when things look bleak, THAT is how it should be. You are not goin gwant someone back who isn't sure or doesn't want to be there. Again, experience. I know my (x)W wants to be with me and no one else. And yes, we are reconcilling and all and over all doing great. But we still have those moments, hell just today that question the very fabric of everything actually working out. But in the end of conflict, it's the fact that she wants to be here, with me, that shines through and reminds her and I alike that we will get over the issue at hand.