Next steps

[flowmom]

Woman with a plan . You'll be able to hold your head high and feel dignity, and know that someone is in your corner. Sometimes strength means leaning on others.

Way to go on the GAL aver.

[avermont]

OK, all DB friends--I should not be reading and posting at work as you know it is way too addictive to me and I am not getting any work done. And today I am jazzed and vibrating to the max anyhow, in anticipation of tonight.

But-newsflash: X QUIT THE SHOW! He told the director on Monday that he couldn't do the light design. Bailed out. Left her in the lurch. Unable to be a team player, suck it up for the good of the show, the community.

One of my many reactions, is, unfortunately "oh, no! one more reason for him to HATE me! Resent me for pushing him out of the show!!! But the director ASKED me. I didn't ASK to join. And I stayed very low key until I had some drawings to share!"

Sheesh. So now I will add Lighting Designer to my repetoire, and DO WHATEVER it takes to make the show work.

WTF????

[chatterbug]

I can think of many names to call her.

See You Next Tuesday comes to mind.
As does parasite
or
go hifreann leat


But personally how about

Pogue Mahone ( kiss my arse )

[pearlharbr]

Glad to hear you'll have support but not too much. You're right, that would totally look desperate. And I think you put way too much thought into these meetings. Yes, you want to be prepared for what might happen. But working yourself up into a tizzy just means you're giving your power away. You're setting yourself up for allowing X and OW/GF to determine your mood by being there/not being there/saying something/not saying anything/etc.

I think the best thing to do would be to show up with just K. Then you can wave to your gf across the room and act as if nothing is bothering you. Because that's the goal--to live your life without any thought about X.

[WhatNow]

I'm pullin for you tonight. I am sure you will acquire a huge sense of power from it!

[talia]

GOOD LUCK tonight Aver! I'll be looking for your post on how it went.

SCORE one more for you - H clearly has lost his cahones - quitting the production! Clearly he can't be relied upon for anything where he might have to man up!

You have the upper hand - you've won several "battles" - go in tonight strong!!!

(((aver)))

T

[avermont]

I'm here w/ 3 gal pals & my guy. X is sitting alone!!

[avermont]

Yes, so what up with this?

I time it perfectly--walk in with 2 gal pals and my "beard" guy (whom I do actually like and hope to have a fling with) just as the meeting is getting started. No where to sit but right behind X! who is sitting by himself. One seat over is J, a friend of X's from planning commission. Probably a guy thing not to sit directly next to each other.

But I heard from a friend that J said X was a "slimeball" just recently, so not like J has reconciled his feelings towards X.

Thanks to anti anxiety meds, knitting, and making little jokes with K, I was perfectly cool thru out meeting. Even braved hanging around a little bit to have dessert and chat.

K walked me home, sat and chatted--really easy fun convo for about 1 1/2 hours.

So, to ponder--if it were my "business" which it is not--why X not bring gf to town meeting??? what a great chance to introduce her to everyone? Again, remember that is not my business.

So--it was, as usual, much less anxiety-filled than I had anticipated--but I still haven't met my goal of facing down the two of them together. I still have to cross that bridge eventually.

Thanks to all who sent me good wishes!

[newmama]

Aver, how terrific that X is not part of the show- you can do what you love with freedom!

As for X not bringing girlfriend to the town meeting, what a relief. I was not 100% certain he was going to bring her, to be honest! But how AWESOME that you brought " a beard!" hahahaha!

[blownaway65]

Go Aver, you superstar you.

You did excellently at the meeting, only "thing" I have is, as you say it's none of your business who thinks what about H, or what he thinks so why do you care.

As for K, not that I'm into guys or anything, but I can tell you from my point of view being with Jo, I'm way content to just sit and talk for hours. I know she appreciates it (and I love it too) Theres no pressure for anything "heavy" - just nice to be together. If you want to see someone then this is definitely a really good start.

I know I don't have to tell you this but I will anyway - just make sure you do it for you, not to make H jealous or anything and I know you're too good a person to do that.

You did so well today Aver, I'm really proud of you and so happy for you.

PS Does your "beard" guy have a beard, cos I hear they can really tickle !!!

PPS what are you knitting ?