Cesco, The reason this isn't making sense is because you are wanting to be in denial even though deep down I think you know the truth.
Your wife is in and has been in an affair. All the signs are there... (lack of interest in you, the ILYBNILWY statments, the new blackberry that is stuck to her hip, the FB chats with men she works with, the man at work that is pursuing her(or her pursuing him TOO)....
EVEN YOU deep down has said more than once that it is the one man at work. I think you know deep down inside that this is exactly the man she is in an affair with. Your gut has told you this again and again, but then you go into denial.
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What I have difficulty with is setting a boundary around the amount of time on FB.. I know she uses it to chat it up with girlfriends etc, but I also know she chats it up with the guy at her workplace which was the same guy who was pursuing her earlier.
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I guess she may also be getting a bit smarter because just recently say 2 months ago decided to get her own phone plan. She got the blackberry that has the messanger on it.. She is on that thing steady!!.. No way to spy on it to see whom she is messaging,and she deletes right after she writes stuff..
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I snuck in and noticed her chatting with 2 of the guys from work. She didn't hide it and I asked to readit. I think I got there too early as there wasn't much.
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I am pretty confident that the EA is not going on.. She flat out told me that if I wanted to contact him by all means go ahead..
Is this man married? I would suspect he is. This is why it has been so easy for them to keep you fooled. Something IS going on Cesco... I guarantee it.
Don't you think she is smart enough to fool you? She KNOWS you are watching her. She FEELS you are watching her. She isn't going to make it obvious (even though she is making it obvious to those who have been observing these things for years and years) She is covering her tracks because she knows you are watching and thinks you are snooping. It is YOU who needs to do a better job of investigative work. Do you think that a detective gets his best evidence by asking the suspect? Do you think the suspect admits to guilt?
