Good point, I'm thinking the same thing. The first problem was timing. He was already in a bad mood and nighttime is fatal for discussions.
I just asked him plainly if he could switch MOnday for Tuesday. Just like that. He's asked me many times for the same and I've done it. Except for him it's a trigger, a way he has felt taken for granted in the past so I have to approach him differently.
So I could sit down when he's in the right mood, not tired, and I need to get another babysitter as H doesnt like my parents bbsitting. I can let him know I have one ready to go. I don't know. Repeat what I already said? HE gets so worked up I often have to repeat, repeat, repeat, until he can hear me. Repeat that I do not want to tie him to my schedule, I'm willing to be flexible? Help?
