Lost - In terms of going back to school the only out of pocket expense long term are books. My financial plan is to use the amount of tuition reimbursement that my company provides. When she finds out she is not going to be thrilled. A few other questions....

1) Should I tell her that I am going back to school. In our last convo on the matter her last words were "do what you feel you need to do in your heart" - this of course was after she said (in response to my question about how she felt about it)....that she had no choice since i "told her" what i was doing and that she had to "put an H on my chest and handel it". So do I tell her?

2) On Sunday I took my daughter to a friends lake house and we spent the night watching movies and reading. I had a blast but when I came home this morning with my daughter (at 8AM so that she can go to school) my son told me that Mom is very angry with you because you did not ask to take Toria overnight. Before I post my questions....I will say that I left a note on the counter letting her and the boys know that D and the dog were at the lake house with me and would not be home (note: W and the 2 Sons were not going to be home until 9PM). So my question is two fold - if confronted what do I do? I personally would like to set some boundaries. I do not think that I have to ask permission to take my daughter with me (having said this..this was a last minute thing...under different circumstances I would let her know). If she does not confront me should I bring up the issue. I mean I think that she should not be complaining about me to the boys. Am I missing something here?

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