I also wanted to add that I can understand why you feel sickened about so many things.
But (and this is the hard part) as much as you feel sickened about how things are, I think in the mind of a WAS they feel they are doing the right thing as they feel sickened with the idea of remaining married. I know that sounds horrible but it is how these creatures think. I really do believe they feel ending a marriage will be short term pain and in the long run everybody will be better off.
You feel sickened because your H can't look at you and communicate and your H feels sickened that he might have to look at you and communicate. As angry as you get that he chooses not to communicate, he is equally as angry that you still want him to because right now, he doesn't want to.
So what can you do to bridge that gap? Make it so you want to communicate less and your H wants to communicate more?
