No, don't tell him that the H needed to know, it says NOTHING about what damage he's doing to his kids and to his family...
It just sidesteps his betrayal... hmmm... I dunno, your call, but I don't like that response...
I hoenstly woudl'nt even bother giving him one. If he was a man he would have spoken to her H in teh first place instead of turning him into a cuckhold sneaking around him like a cheap sleazy creep...
He's a coward, when you expose him, you are just revealing what he's doing... the more angry he gets, the more UNDERHANDED he knwos his behaviour is...
If he wasn't ashamed of his actions, he would be public about them... he's hiding because he's ashamed of himself...
but, addicts will live in shame as long as they get that precious fix...
I wouldn't even bother talking to him or explaining yourself.. whatever you tell him is NOT going to register... replying is just dignifying his anger...
THe best answer to anger is silence.
WHen children throw tantrums we don't explain ourselves, we just sit back and wait it out... he's acting like a child, so treat him like one
