Finally realised that he is having an A!!

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Thanks Allen and Puppy your input is really appreciated. At this stage the only info I have about the A is what I hear from my kids. Based on my H's behaviour, my family have been trying to convince me for ages that she wasnt just a friend. The fact that my H thought is was ok to take her to my sons football match - was a big red flag for me. That is, he is now introducing her into my kids activities, which just says Step Mom for me. My S7 also said he noticed that my H put his arm around her.

I have chatted to my L today and we will asking him to disclose all his financial affairs, mediation is not an option anymore.

As I dont have the OW H's details I intend to send a friend invitation via Facebook to the OW's H. I am not giong to say anything but see what he responds with. I amure he will know who I am. I have also subtely been questioning my kids.

From now on I will not be taking any phone calls, or discussing anything with him. Everything will go through our Ls, and if it is minor maybe an email - as you know Ls are not cheap.

I will let you know how it goes with the facebook invite. Yes H will be livid but I can honestly say at this point I dont care. My response will be: I thought he needed to know.