Yes, this is a divorce busting web site but there are people here who will tell you that walking away with your dignity is the best way to end H's affair and bust your divorce. (FYI, that's what I did and it did work for me.)
You definitely need to retain an attorney ASAP. You need to protect yourself financially and legally. After you discuss things with your attorney you can make a decision as to whether or not you want to file.
Going dark is for you, to give yourself time and space to work on your own issues and figure out what you want to do. It's not meant to be a punishment for the WAS, although it will let him know what it will be like to be D.
