It is a blessing and a curse to be the LBS- a blessing in that often we find the strength and resolve to analyze every aspect of ourselves and our M, read books, see IC, seminars, et, etc.
We are burdened by having not re-written the hx of the M, nor having the willingness to seek out OP immediately...often the WAS has that headstart.
It's comforting to look at the rebound as a band-aid for WAS- but it is misleading at best. It would be nice to see WAS take some time and figure things out or deal w/ being alone- unfortunately any R beginning soon after S or D, or even while still M (like in my case, WAW w/ OM2)- it is such a blow to the ego and a shot against the M.
Have I hoped for their R to crumble? ABSOLUTELY. Is WAW over me? POSSIBLY. IS it too soon for her to be in a R? IDK.
She's been out of the house for 1 month to "figure things out." Immediately she's involved w/ OM2.
WTF?! None of my business- do I want to jump into something- not really...I want to get over her and the HELL I've been through the last 6 months.
I would have loved to have been the WAS- it will just take us a bit longer to get there is all.
