Steve, I'm not snooping as much as maybe I should, but as I said, I'm pretty sure most of communication takes place on cel phone which is a track phone. I cannot get bills, etc., and since she knows I have looked before, all she has to do is erase txts and calls and I have no way to find them. OM is not married any longer. D went through about 2 month ago. I would bust the affair if I had any hard evidence. Other than time spent at school and after meetings, I can't say to her "Gotcha!" You know what I mean? I know what she's doing, EA, PA, heavy flirting, whatever, isn't right. You know it, she knows it, everyone knows it! She won't see it right now. From what I have learned on here from Sandi, PDT, and others is to take my time and not push her farther away by being demanding and "mean". I am not asking questions about her whereabouts and what she is doing. I don't check her phone everytime she's in the shower or whatever because, in addition to driving me crazy, she knows to erase everything. That doesn't mean I am not looking and keeping my ears open, I am, I just can't afford to rush anything right now. BTW, OM lives about an hour away, so she can't drive by his house. All after school comm. takes place on tracphone. I am about halfway through DR book and trying to use strategies learned from there and here. Some things work and some don't. I'm still very much lost but not where I was a month ago. Hopefully I have some time to go before it's over.
