Just want my H back

[GoBison]

Hi hhh,

Thanks for stopping by my thread. I am in the same boat as you feeling like I am done one day and the next hoping that she will call to work on things. I sent off the changes on the final draft to my lawyer this morning. All that is left for us is to sign the papers and the judge to sign-off.

I hate it when he tells me I drove him away...

So you did things that he didn't like. He probably did a lot of things that you didn't like either. You stayed with the marriage he CHOOSE to leave. Don't own his portion of the breakdown and his choice to leave. All you can do is be the best you there is.

I guess what I'm most upset about is how I handled myself yesterday. Wish I could have rolled w the punches a bit more as I did over our lunch last month. I know going tit-tat goes nowhere, and is not a cycle I want to engage in, it's cheeseless tunnels. I felt a little attacked too, with him telling me that it was my fault that he payed so much of his tuition upfront versus taking it all in loans, since he doesn't have as much now.

Feels weird standing up to your h on something doesn't it. He has to suffer the consequences of his actions. If you were still married then paying as you did for his tuition wouldn't have been a problem. He is done with the marriage no sense of you carrying his education costs longer than you need to. He will find a way to make the payments just make sure that a structured payment is in the final divorce papers. Take care