Puppy Dog Tails, I am not sure how I missed your response but thank you for that. It hurts to read that but is also not something new. I knew when I found out originally with her statement "there is someone I am interested in" meant she was having an affair. When she said she had never done anything I also knew it but kept wanting to believe her. Stupid me.
I have only recently started getting feedback from friends--my friends and mutual friends of my ex where they are telling me I did the right thing in getting a divorce that quickly. Remember--the first statement she made to me was Aug 30th with the "I don't know whether I love you anymore and don't know whether I want to be married." I caught her out on a date with the OM on Sept 19th and we were divorced on Oct 9th. The ex was running around telling our friends that I was a controlling person and just a completely different person behind closed doors. I am a very outgoing, happy go lucky person and generally the life of the party. People think I am a lot of fun and I probably initiated 90% of the friendships we have had as a married couple. That really bothered me to hear that she had rewritten history to make it sound like I was the primary source of the issues.
What is your recommendation on what to do with the kids? The two oldest know their mother is "dating" this guy. They're not idiots and I am sure the timing of his divorce as well as the sudden-ness of ours will be no coincidence for them if they haven't already figured it out. As I posted already I told them a couple of months ago before they knew their mother was dating him that I no longer respected the OM because he had cheated on his wife and broken up their family.
Thoughts? Thanks again.
I'm not sure i want to be married to you anymore - 8-30-09 ILYBINILWY = 9-4-09 Busted her on a date 9-19-09 Separation - 9-21-09 Divorce - 10-9-09 S15 S13 S10 M - 18 Years
