I'd like you guys opinion on whether I was a "douschebag"
Yep.
Can you not just come to an agreement about visitation and support and move on with your life?
too much anger, too much hostility, too much emotion. arguing and carrying on like you are = "douschebag"
I imagine this is your first experience with a custody/visitation situation, so my advice to you is to just go with the flow till it all finds its rhythm. Acting all emotional and fighting distrupts the natural course of actions. Remember, children are resilient. They will survive. They will have a normal life. YOU have to learn to adjust.
I can see where you can get bent out of shape at the "drop off" when their shoes are untied, or they are sitting in the front seat instead of the back, or you get stuck with all the homework and have a date planned. But it is what it is and eventually you just get used to it. Bickering.
Bickering will get you nowhere and nothing. You can come here and complain and a few people with agree with you that your ex-wife is a biatch. But she is telling everyone in your circle of friends, he acts like a whiney little girl and he's such a loser. Then everyone you know thinks you are "douschebag" and none of the woman you know want to get naked with you because you ex-wife told them 2 inches, snores, and never got me off.
What works? the attitude:
You found someone new. I found someone new. Thats just how life goes. Have the support taken out of your paycheck. Just Smile, Say Thanks, and Be Glad She is Out of Your Life.
