Remember, believe none of what she says until her actions prove otherwise. Who really knows what her counselor said; it's probably a distortion of the truth. I say that from experience with my WAW.
I think it's actually good that you are not ML and sleeping in the same bed. Her thinking tells me that she equates sex for love. My WAW does the same; and thinks that I do too.
continue to work on yourself and give her space so long as she is in counseling and not running around town. I hope that she's being transparent.
Also, if she's really wanting back; she'll understand that you won't rush back into sex, combined finances, or anything else that used to define your marriage.
