I mentioned on FLTC's thread that my STBX wants me to go on vacation with her and the kids next summer for a full week. We used to go with friends and rent cottages together each summer. This year our friends are going and she wondered whether I would like to go. She didn't seem to get that sharing a cottage with her for a full week would be emotionally quite difficult for me. At this point, I'm not going. My kids told me they'd like me to come but I've explained to them that although their mom and I still try to be friends in many ways, it's very difficult for me to think of spending a week at the cottage with her. I said it was like being husband and wife again for a week and then going back to not being husband and wife. They said they understood. Part of me feels sad, like I've let my kids down but I also know it would be a very weird situation. It's one thing to celebrate birthdays together and open presents together on Christmas but it's quite a different thing to expect me to go away for a week with her and the kids. That's a lot of emotional energy and presently I just don't have it to spare!
