Vacillating husband

[newmama]

What would it hurt if you contacted him in some form? He might tell your H- yeah your wife is crazy and thinks you need to get medicated for depression and it could open a conversation at least, don't you think?

This might sound cruel, but your H can use his depression to manipulate you- people with physical illnesses can do it, too. They guilt people into feeling sorry for them and taking care of them. (I talking about dysfunctional relationships like yours is right now)